Not everyone is willing to change. Take the example of Michael who still languishes at the law office where he hopes to be a partner. Many people resist change for a variety of reasons. The number one reason why people refuse to change is that they are afraid of the unknown. Another reason why people refuse to change is that they do not want to step out of their comfort zone. Even if their way is not working and they express being dissatisfied, they will still resist change. This is why people end up failing. And why you will succeed. If you are willing to change and find better ways to do things, you can also help motivate 

You cannot expect people to change their way of doing things overnight. If you have ever worked in a business where someone new came in and took over and tried to institute change right away, you understand that sort of frustration. After all, you are getting along fine, you feel comfortable with your job and all of the sudden someone comes along and wants to change the way that you do everything. It can be scary and threatening others to change as well.

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Your beliefs and values are what make you a unique individual. They are based upon past experiences as well as present circumstances. Many of them were learned from parents as well as other respected individuals. While some people may have values and beliefs that are deemed to be “wrong” according to society, unless your values and beliefs cause harm to others, they cannot be considered wrong. There is no such thing as the right way to think. In order for you to be able to resolve your conflicts and grow as an individual, you must be able to understand your beliefs and values. Beliefs and values are those that you hold the most dear to your heart. While some beliefs and values may change from time to time, they remain your own. For example, when you are young, you may feel that your religion is very important to you. You may go to church often and pray daily.As you get older, you may start to hold different beliefs – you may even change your religion. This is not wrong or right, just an example of how your beliefs...

If you look at conflict in a positive way, you will see that it gives you the opportunity to communicate with another individual and resolve a conflict to a satisfying conclusion.

If you suffer from stress, one of the best things you can do for yourself is to eat a balanced diet. The diet should contain vitamins and minerals that are found in fruits and vegetables, especially the dark green vegetables, proteins and whole grains. You need carbohydrates in your body but you do not need simple carbohydrates at all. Simple carbohydrates are candy, cakes, cookies and other sweets that offer you no nutritional value at all but only add pounds and fat to your body. You don't need them so why bother eating them?

Many doctors believe that it is lack of proper nutrition that leads to stress. If you are not getting enough of the B vitamins or Omega Fats, for example, it is said to lead to anxiety, depression and stress. While you can take nutritional supplements to make sure that you get the proper amount of vitamins, you are better off to do it the natural way and eat the foods that are good for you. Here is a list of foods that you should eat:

-Proteins such as chicken, fish and meats;

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If you keep telling yourself something negative over and over again, you will begin to believe it, no matter how true or untrue it may be. So will others around you. So why would you do this to yourself? Aren't you better off to be more positive, even when communicating with only yourself?

Do yourself a favor and give yourself positive affirmations throughout the day instead of negative talk. This will make you feel better about yourself, more confident and better able to communicate. Instead of believing the negative, start believing the positive.

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"I am so stupid - no wonder I never can get ahead at work." How many times have you said this to yourself? How many times have you put yourself down in front of others at home or at work? The old cliché that 'if you don't love yourself,...

Everyone experiences stress at one time or another. It's just that some of us handle it better than others. The trick to dealing with stress is to manage the stress instead of allowing it to manage you.

 

Make no mistake about it - stress does cause conflict. But by managing stress, you can learn to alleviate some of the conflict that stress brings on.

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Why manage stress? Because when it gets out of control it can be one of the most destructive influences in your life. If you can learn to manage stress, you can then have the resemblance of some sort of control. While you are still going to experience stress in life and cannot get rid of all your stressors, if you learn how to recognize symptoms of stress and manage them, you can stay one step ahead of the game and be...

1. Learn how to say "no" without apologizing. If someone is pressing you to do something that you don't want to do, it is okay to say "no." If you say "yes" when you mean no, then you are going to end up disliking yourself and resenting the person to whom you said yes.

2. Learn not to criticize. Use more positive communication skills such as praise instead of criticism. Avoid the words "you never" and "you always" as they are detrimental.

3. Use "I" statements instead of "you" statements. Remember that no one can argue with you about the way that you feel and that you are entitled to your own feelings.

4. Speak up for yourself. If something bothers you, do not hide it. Be free to discuss your feelings.

5. If you feel that you are acting too aggressive or too demanding, do not beat yourself over it. Just try to do better the next time.

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You have probably heard the term “passive aggressive” and did not know what it meant. You are probably familiar with the terms passive and aggressive. These are three communication styles that should be eliminated if you are to communicate effectively with other individuals.

Aggressive communication can be described as follows:

-Shouting

-Using intimidation or threats

-Underlying violence

-Talking down to people in a disrespectful manner

-Being very controlling

-Saying rude and hurtful things to people under the guise of being “blunt”

-Name calling

-Offensive behavior

Do you exhibit any of these signs of aggressive behavior? If so, you probably have found that it has gotten you into quite a few fights, maybe even some physical altercations. You are a walking time bomb who always seems to be able to go off.

There is nothing wrong with being assertive in making sure that your needs are met. There is something wrong if you are hurting other people in your quest to do this.

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Avoid Using “Always” and “Never”.

Many people, when they are involved in a conflict with other people will accuse them of

“always” doing something or “never” doing something. People rarely never or always do

anything. We may have habits, but for the most part, people are pretty flexible. When

you accuse someone of always doing something or never doing something you are

automatically putting them on the defensive and are escalating the conflict.

 

 

 

Use “I” instead of “You” in your conflict.

Instead of being accusatory towards the other individual in the conflict why not tell them

how the conflict is making you feel? The other person can argue with you if you tell them

something about themselves.

 

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If you can, as they say, head the conflict off at the pass, before it gets to be a huge problem, you

are one step ahead of the game. In order to be able to do this, you have to understand how to

learn the warning signs of conflict. Once you recognize the warning signs of conflict, then you

will know how to be able to mitigate the factors that are resulting in the conflict.

Some of the early warning signs of a conflict are:

Behavior Changes

Lack of Communication

Lack of productivity in work or home

You may first notice behavior changes in another person that begin to escalate towards conflict.

For example, if you work with another person with whom you have lunch every day and they

suddenly stop having lunch with you, this can lead to conflict.

The behavior changes are usually coupled with lack of communication. Both precipitate a

conflict. The lack of communication, when coupled...