“I opened my inbox and there it was again, a whole lot of forwards from my colleague. I enjoyed each one of them in the beginning but there seemed to be no end to this junk mail. My inbox would be full up to the brim and my mornings would start clearing it and sending them in the trash can.” Haven’t you heard this before?

Well! This is not a very rare situation but if you find the forwarded emails irritating and irksome you can always keep deleting them. It’s definitely not a solution to the problem and if you feel the need to erase the issue at its root, then try and speak to the sender of theses forwards. Maybe you can tell him that you are already stressed with an overload of work and you really don’t find the time to read all the forwards. If he is smart enough he will be able read the hidden message. However if the forwards still linger in your inbox in spite of polite and repeated requests, then I guess you need to give him a piece of your mind. There is no need to get into a brawl or fist fight but...

Most employees are struggling to say ‘no’ to work for longer hours. Working longer means you have to sacrifice your time with your family and friends and also your freedom and independence. It is usually not an easy decision more so when the deal is lucrative but it’s you who have to prioritize and decide what comes first for you family or work. If you are ready to say ‘no’ to a request for working overtime, be polite and gentle while you are refusing and justify it with a rock solid reason. Don’t criticize anyone for offering you this proposition and let the other person save face.

Explain your reasons for denial in full length and tell them that you have come to this conclusion only after much deliberation and you regret every bit of it. Tell them how important and dear your independence is to you or justify it with a family issue like someone’s ill health or your need to complete your education along with work. Such issues do melt a heart and you can get through smoothly. There are a lot of people in...

Displaying anger at your workplace either at your supervisor or subordinate can be a reaction to unfairness, work overload or incompetence. It also could be triggered due to a major incident as in a demotion, a lay off or someone else’s promotion. But in today’s workplace scenario, exhibiting anger, wrath and rage is just not acceptable. One has to learn to tame the fierce tiger. In fact more and more companies are realizing how an angry employee can negatively affect the workplace.

Initially being tagged as a screamer used to be sign of ‘macho’ an indication that you are expecting better performance and results from your colleagues. Sadly it worked then as people never bothered bringing up a controversial work issue with a colleague who has a reputation of screaming and exploding. However, that has radically changed. In fact one of the key requirements for successful employees is the ability to focus and remain calm and composed even in the most tumultuous situation. If you are at logger heads with your...

A human without anger is like a country without a military. Which country would be silly enough to expose themselves by not having a military, however on the flip side which country would go around fighting a war over any and everything. In the same way anger is an emotion that we need for our own protection but it must he used in moderation and when it is used it should be appropriate to the extent that it does not cause unnecessary harm. Some would agree with me that just like over used of military conflicts ultimately will assure destruction of on both sides of the fight; over use of anger will harm both the aggressor and the target of the anger. There must be a better way…

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Getting fired unfortunately can happen to the best of us. It can happen when a conflict arises between what the management perceives and your expectations from the job. Getting fired can happen when it may not be your fault or maybe because you totally screwed up. But that doesn’t mean you beat yourself up. Sometimes employees are justifiably terminated whereas more than often they are illegally or unjustly fired. In either of the cases the termination can lead to anger, demotivation and a feeling of loss and defeat. However one must not dwell on it. Instead he/she should turn this anger as an opportunity to rebuild and resurrect a shattered dream. One must focus on what he/she will be doing next and how they will find a job. It is simply futile to cry over spilled milk.

You must start a job search immediately though you are going to face a few hurdles as there will always be the stigma of being fired. However one must tackle the issue neutrally if not positively. It also may not be necessary to mention...

“The online class is an excellent way to participate in the Anger Management Class. I was able to interact with the instructor and my classmates with no problem. The audio and visual aspects of the class gave me a real classroom feel. I recommend this to anyone looking to improve themselves and their family situation!” (F. Graham in NY)

No matter where you are in the world you can participate in our online class. This is a live class so other participants will be in the class either at our physical location or online. This class is a great way to hear the experiences of others and learn new ways to manage anger and conflict. The classes are also on weekends for your convenience. Click Here to see our class schedule and to request enrollment

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We all get stressed at some point of time in our working environment but the only that varies is the stress level. The way we deal with this stress separates each one of us and also to what extent we are affected is a crucial factor. A stressful work environment will not only affect our ability to work and consequently our productivity but more importantly our health too. Stress is a natural force and unfortunately you cannot eliminate it altogether. Instead you have to learn how to control or mange it before it clutches and swallows you up.

Stress when experienced in a certain level is not a vicious thing. Some people welcome stress as it motivates them to get things stirring. However stress may grow manifold if you find it difficult to cope with pressure. Tight deadlines, customer complaints, poor productivity and excessive work load all lead to mounting levels of stress. One of the ways to mange the negative influence of stress is to nip it in the bud by recognizing its symptoms and as the popular saying...

Sibling rivalry is a common sign seen in all older kids. But most of it is harmless and goes away with time. Parents should take great care in preparing the older child when a new one arrives. Many times parents are busy with the new born and neglect their older kid. Due to this the older child develops hatred towards the younger sibling. Some children who are aggressive can even harm the younger child unknowingly due to anger and jealousy.

A certain amount of conflict is normal between children in families. Comparison and constant competition can lead to sibling rivalry. It is in the hands of the parents to see that kids don’t form jealousy towards their younger ones. Fighting can lead to hatred between siblings and some even take it as far as killing each other. Many brothers from board room have gone to court rooms taking their fights to court. Sibling rivalry can lead to anger in children and as they grow up the anger grows with them and leads to fatality of the relationship. Sibling rivalry usually...

Absence of companionship can be due to many reasons. Divorce, widowhood, single parenting, or long distance marriage can all lead to absence of companionship. When a man or woman has to shoulder responsibility all by oneself it becomes difficult and he/ she are unable to cope with it. That is when anger wells up in an individual. This anger is generally aimed at self or at the companion who has left him/her. In widowers they generally blame God for taking away the person whom he loved the most. The loss of companionship can leave a man shattered and he takes to drinking alcohol to forget his pain. This can be dangerous as kids may ultimately be the sufferer.

Single parenting is another major problem American women face now. The pressure of being both father and mother can tell on their health and in turn they become angry towards their kids. Long distance marriage also can be painful as there is no one to share your feelings and emotions. If spouse is in one state and you in another talking over the phone...

Every other Sunday Conflict Coaching & Consulting, PLLC facilitates anger and conflict management classes from our Charlotte office. With the use of online video conferencing we have been providing theses weekend classes to individuals nationwide. Call 704-804-0841 or visit www.masteringanger.com for details. Residents of Charlotte and surrounding cities are always welcomed to join us in person.

We are the premier provider of anger management classes.

 

Carlos Todd,LPC,NCC,CAMF

Online Conflict Coach

www.masteringanger.com

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