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Exercise regularity to help induce positive feelings Read a book Practice deep breathing Speak with a trusted friend Use positive by self-talk HALT! Determine if you irritable because you are hungry, lonely, tired etc. Take a long bubble bath Have sex with another willing participant Take a walk Talk about the issue Have a good cry Write down the pros and cons of dealing with the situation in the way you are considering Walk away NOW Go to a 24 hour establishment to clear your head. Remove yourself from the situation Go shopping Go out to dinner with friends Paint your nails Work on a project or hobby Spend time with someone special Do something ...
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Five messages Ferguson can teach us about anger Anger is a messenger. Anger is almost always a safe way to express pain, fear, and a host of other emotions. In the wake of the tragic shooting of Michael Brown, the grand jury decision, and the anger that erupted in Ferguson, we must ask ourselves what message anger in the community may be sending. Following are six proposed messages that anger may project.   There is unresolved trauma. Psychological jargon describes two broad types of trauma – direct and vicarious. Communities with constant exposure to trauma can experience a numbing effect that makes it impossible for the parties involved to care about or understand the needs of others. The end result of this unresolved trauma is vilification of all parties involved, which in turn can lead to a mentality that says “I will protect myself or hurt you before you hurt me again.”   My voice has not been heard. I don’t feel understood. In a negotiation, it is always important for all parties involved to feel that their voice is heard. The right to be heard is directly linked to the idea that, “I matter.” When systems do not ...
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Inefficient organizational systems In order for there to be a productive, efficient, safe and healthy work environment, employees need clearly defined expectations and instructions on how to carry out their daily tasks. A supportive environment coupled with clear explanations can eliminate ambiguity, confusion and ultimately conflict. Without clear expectations  employees will become frustrated and leading to a prevalence of unhealthy conflict in an organization.  Lack of pre-post testing assessments To accurately determine the impact of anger and conflict resolution interventions there must be pre-post testing to assess the root cause of anger and conflict within the workplace and the impact of interventions on management conflict in the workplace. In the absence of such testing the impact of the intervention on changing attitudes, beliefs, or actions that affect organizational performance will simply remain unknown.      Cookie cutter conflict resolution training There are probably hundreds of conflict resolution presentations and training programs in the market place.  One common mistake made by organizations is to not evaluate the root cause of conflicts but instead providing ready-made training without address root cause. These trainings may elicit positive feedback from participants; however, they do little to address the root cause of organizational conflict.     Assessing the ...
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Access to and comfort with the indiscriminate use of lethal weapons There was also a time when children would resolve disagreements were their fist,  rocks and sticks. Incidences like Columbine have taught us that this is no longer the case.  Unfortunately lethal weapons are more accessible now than ever—anyone can get their hands on one.  There appears to be a troubling trend towards using lethal weapons to settle disagreement. When  addressing anger and conflict in society, there must be an intentional conversation regarding how individual resolves conflict without resorting to the use of lethal weapons.       The Emergence of Hate Communities With the rise of the internet, those who promote anger, aggression and conflictual positions  can easily find a community of like-minded individuals to co-sign their cause.  While places like Facebook and Twitter are valuable tools in building healthy communities, these social networks can also be a breeding ground for those who have intense anger, aggression and communication issues. Those who are angry at the government, their community, their neighbors, other races, other nationalities, and/or individual of other sexual orientation etc. can all find a place to continue to feed their ...
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Conflict can be both bad and good. This article is focused on the positive value of conflict in relationships. 1. Conflict reminds us of our individual identity Each individual has a voice, a set of core beliefs and a mode of expressing those beliefs that forms the core self—their identity. This voice is a combination of innate traits, values and, experiences. Without this identity, individuals cease to exist. In a conflict, this unique identity often becomes evident when the individual speaks. When couples communicate and are in conflict, the intention in speaking is to be part of the conversation, to matter, and to be afforded the respect of being heard. However, too often this expression of individuality in relationships is perceived as a threat which leads couples to constantly communicate from a defensive posture, therefore, keeping the individual on guard and unwilling to open up and communicate effectively. 2. Conflict is an opportunity for the relationship to grow Numerous studies have been done on the value of conflict in organizations and more recently other researchers have also attested to value of conflict in relationships. Researchers have found that couples and organizations that avoid conflict do ...
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When an individual presents with frequent anger, it has become embedded in our culture to assume they need anger management classes. This position is misleading. While anger is a normal human emotion, chronic anger has many varied causes which, if not correctly diagnosed and treated, can lead to social, emotional and medical problems. With the stakes so high, targeting the root cause of anger and designing appropriate interventions is imperative. Here are eight possible causes of anger and potential treatment options that don’t necessarily include anger management classes.   Physical and Emotional Trauma: Those who have survived trauma including physical, sexual abuse, war, natural disasters or death, may have learned one fundamental lesson about life—nothing and no one is safe. This intensity of this type of emotional disturbance can drive anger by creating a persistent need to defend oneself from real or perceived danger. Anger acts as a façade–a defense mechanism to keep others at bay. Many of these individuals who use this defensive technique, long for closeness and intimacy, however, they cannot risk being hurt again therefore anger acts to keep them safe. Anger management classes alone cannot improve these situations. Psychotherapy is recommended in order to assist ...
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As a child, I was the unfortunate childhood witness to domestic violence. Those events shaped who I have become today, and as a mental health practitioner and a student of anger, conflict and domestic violence I see the world through different lenses. One set of lenses is that of the child who heard my mothers’ cries, and the second set of lenses as the professional who assist others in dealing life’s pain. Having the knowledge, experience and battle scars of watching domestic violence occur, I can share with you, in my opinion, the voice of the abuser and what he feels and experiences as he takes the victim through the treacherous cycle of abuse. My position is that in the mind of the abuser, there is unresolved insecurity, anxiety and vulnerability which drive the need for constant power and control in an effort to give the appearance and façade of superiority. As the cycle begins, so does the inner-secrets that dictate the behavior. The inner feelings of the abuser think like this:   1. Fear & Weakness: Those close to me say and do things that make me feel naked emotionally. The truth is that because they ...
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etty had a 162 IQ and spent a good deal of her time studying. She was bound and determined to get into Harvard and knew she had a good shot. She joined clubs not because she wanted to join or even had an interest, but because she knew it would look good on her Ivy League school application. During her high school career, while other kids were going to dances and enjoying themselves, Betty was spending all of her time studying. She was not only going to go to Harvard, she was also going to become a doctor and she wasn’t allowing anything to stand in her way. Betty did have a few friends who she hung out with in school, but she was not considered popular. She longed to be able to fit in more with her peers, but felt that many of them were unintelligent. She found it increasingly difficult to form relationships with anyone. They just weren’t as smart as her and she couldn’t be forgiving. Besides, when she got to Harvard she would find more intelligent people like her.   Doug was in Betty’s class. He never really noticed Betty ...
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  Charlotte, NC  Dr. Carlos Todd director and License Professional Counselor at Conflict Coaching & Consulting noted that the company has been in operation since 2006 and has provided a variety of mental health services but in the last few years has focused its programs on assisting clients in relieving  anger, conflict, anxiety and depression symptoms. This company focused its clinical services in the chosen subject areas because of the ever-increasing problem of anger and family conflict.   Dr. Todd, himself an expert in conflict management, shared that this company has taken a structured approach to treatment using a holistic treatment approach; thereby utilizing a variety of assessment tools, psychotherapy interventions, and collaboration with medical personnel re psychiatrists, psychiatric nurses and primary care physicians. This integrated approach ensures the optimal health of clients and has helped the organization find success in treating men who struggle with anger, families in conflict and individuals who struggle with anxiety and depression.   Conflict Coaching is credentialed by the North Carolina Board of Licensed Professional Counselors and accepts insurances including Blue Cross Blue Shield, Aetna, ...
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